Same old song and dance

I think it’s interesting when two people who really shouldn’t be together stay together anyway. I suppose it could be simply because being with that person has just become habit, but sometimes it seems as though it’s because one person’s habit is simply to remain in a relationship, never mind the fact that he knows this relationship is not at all the type of relationship he really wants or deserves, and he really isn’t dating the person for any reason other than the simple fact that he just has to be in a relationship with someone… anyone. I’m not going to stand on a soapbox and say that these people are to be frowned upon, as I was in a place like that once too, however, I “grew” out of it… read: “got dropped on my ass and realized that I am the only person that I need to be relying on to make me happy.”
It is perfectly honest to admit that you’re afraid of being along against the big, scary world, or that you’re simply afraid of facing that dark spot that all of us have to go through in order to become the independent, self-sufficient people we were meant to be. If you can admit these things to yourself, fine. It is when people do not perform such acts of introspection and force other people to keep them from falling into that dark spot that is truly distasteful to me. What, you honestly think you’re going to go merrily along through your whole life, all “tra-la-la, the world is lovely”, and never have to face hardship and despair? Please, spare me. It is only after you have completely imploded in upon yourself that you may grow. Hopefully, into a person who says, “you know, I don’t really need anyone else to make me happy… and the reason none of those other relationships worked? Because I wasn’t even happy with myself to begin with!” That is what you hope a person who has lost the “everything” they found in their former partner will say. However, I will admit that not all of us are as strong as that… some people would just rather sit in their old room at their parents’ house, basking in their own misery, because, as it would turn out, they were just weak, sniveling little drama queens to begin with, and this is where their life’s story will end… never climbing up out of the darkness, never extending their hands toward the light, never accomplishing anything because they still have not learned the lesson that was intended: once must be satisfied with oneself first if he is to be satisfied with anyone else. This is all common-place, routine shit, I know, but I think that a lot of people forget about this and do not realize that if they really are looking for happy in a relationship, they have got to be happy being alone, first. I don’t exactly mean “happy being single”, although that is a part of it, what I mean is be happy with just yourself, whenever you are the only one you have to get yourself through… and whenever you are happy with just that… then you may go on to be in a relationship, where a person will only make you happier than you were before, and not shoulder the entire responsibility of creating your happiness for you.